Life´s Advice - Treasure

Greetings, my readers.

One lesson to learn is that we have to give value to other people.
Because, we may be giving attencion to ones who are not actually there when needed.
At all. We might be expecting too much or even,
Overload others with (often unrealistic) demands.

ALSO and very important too...
We are probably missing out much
And losing the ones we love the most because of those.

How much do words carry in value , over time ?
Quite a part of value, but not all of of it
Atitude means way more, to run that extra mile, to call your significant other
To do crazy things.
To text, to message that person and let him/her know that you are there.
To wait.
To have the guts to change and admit the wrongs, and turn those flaws around.

Because I , you , we are human.
We all make mistakes.
We are not perfect
We all carry regrets along
But what makes the diference is to actually change and fulfill that promise.

P.S.: I promise you, W.

Blessed be.

Life´s Advice - Email Accounts

Good afternoon,

The topic for today is about Email Accounts.
As we know, email accounts are very important nowadays,
Considering such, I have decided to create a post regarding this.

There are many email providers where you can create an email account at, 
Some which are known and some aren't as much
It is up to you to decide which one to pick according to your own needs
(Index or space, environmental impact, free or paid)

I shall leave and list some links/email providers, below :

GMX (Free)

GMAIL (Free, from Google)

HOTMAIL (Free, from Microsoft)

YAHOO (Free, from Yahoo)

SAPO (Free)

IOL (Free)

COMCAST (Paid, I think)

ZON Webmail (Free)

Other place where you can create an account...

SKYPE (Free)

(You will need to install skype in your computer

It isn't exactly a email provider, it is a valuable tool to comunicate and make phone calls internacionally. It has only a username.)

There might be other domains and services.
We can always add more.
Feel free to comment if you do.

Regards.

Life´s Advice - Acceptance

Good evening , my readers ;

How are you today?
I hope you had a wonderful day, yesterday ! :D
The following post is based on some conversations that I had some days ago.

They made me meditate and consider about some points :

Such as what is needed and what we can do in order to accept others.
We should and we can start off by teaching our younger generations
Our sons, daugthers, brothers, sisters and all the remaining generations.
Thinking that we aren't a active element in our society is something that must end.

Personally, about this particular matter,
I believe that everyone needs to accept that... :

A) Life is only ours to live.
Friends and family and people around can give advice
But every final decision and choice is yours.
People ought to be either happy for you, accept your decision
Or even, at least, support you.

"There are times when we have to walk on our own
Times when we have to learn how to fly
And spread our wings".

B) We all are equal and have the right to be happy
No matter which sexual orientation we have.
Again, when we think, act and love freely
Life does seem less troubled and seems to smile for you,
(Sometimes, it really does!)
Don't you agree?

C) Everyone is unique.
We can try to talk , convince, give advice but we cannot change them.
Trying to change someone is like making them go against their own nature...
Except when we wish to someone to change/erase a bad habit
(smoking, violence or drinking habits, for example)
And when we wish that friend, family member or special someone
The best.

D) Being Tolerant
I may be mixing several subjects , yet, to be tolerant
We must learn to understand and look into our own "self"
Accept the best and the worse in us.
Then, accept that no man nor woman is perfect.

The idea and ideal of someone "perfect" can be pricey
Because, as someone wise once said :
"You may be losing diamonds while you were busy collecting stones".

This is also a process
And a journey of inner growth and maturity.

By accepting people around us...

We will feel calm, not stressed
Your mind will feel at ease
Because you won't be feeding hatred,
Nor allowing space for negativity to enter.

God bless you all  ! 

Relationships - The Heart or the looks?

Greetings everyone!
What you prefer? The heart OR the looks?

The looks may please the sight, during the first times, it is...
But what about the Heart?

NOTE: I wrote the title letter on purpose, on that one.

I aim to make people think and debate.
(Not only in this post, but that is my intention on every post of Life Blog)

(As in, a healthy discution about values.
The Heart is the most important aspect when you are either looking for someone
Or stablishing a romantic (or not) type of relationship).

NOTE: This is only my point of view.

A) Judging someone by their looks alone is not fair.
You may be losing a great "to be" friend or better half by looking at their "outter shell".
Their outside is just a shell. Inside, lies a greater treasure, the Soul, the Heart.

B) We will age...

No matter what we do and no matter how many beauty products we use.

That is the Truth. Might as long enjoy life the way it is.

Might as well, welcome wrinkles and all the positive 

and least positive things aging brings along.

What if the person is younger than you? Or older?

Who defines age gaps in relationship?

Age, for me, is a number. And if the person really (trully) loves you,

He/she will wait, will respect you and not make pressure in the relationship.

If he/she does such. he/she is not worth the waiting nor the effort.

C) Looks might trick you. Hearts can too...

I know...Can someone with bad intentions trick you forever?

I don't think so. Sooner or later, the truth will come to surface.

I believe that we have to embrace and accept ourselves 

The way we are. And others, as well.

Looks are again, as I previously said, the outer shell

The cover of the book. Decieving? Sometimes.

D) Falling in love on first sight.

May happen. May not happen.

That is, most possibly, attraction at first sight.

Knowing the person first and knowing that person well,

Is required.

Otherwise you will be leading yourself 

Into a possible mistake and/or misunderstanding within your heart.

Why?

+ Because you can create high or false expectations towards someone

And without knowing him/her properly, you may end up dissapointed.

+ Advice is to know the person well before trusting in first place

Otherwise, you may regret so OR "pay a high price".

Let everything flow naturally. 

+ Careful with the ideal of a "perfect person"

We may be fooled by the picture we create in our minds and at heart

Specially when we try at all costs 

that the "picture perfect" type of person we created

Matches the person we are seeing or are with in a relationship...

It may lead, again, to dissapointment.

+ Dreadful lies?

Little lies may look unharmful but if there is one lie after the other, after another

How do we know and mostly, how can we be sure there is a bigger lie beneath?

Atention to whom you trust and be always aware. 

Note that nobody is perfect and we ought to accept others

And see the other person the way , 

She/he IS. And not the way we want to see them.

Bottom Line : You do not need a sculptural man or woman.
You do not need someone who is beautiful on the outside.
What will it help you with when any aspect in the relationship gets rough?

Look into the heart.
I, for example, met a really amazing being
Who I share my life with.

If I were to look into that young man
To his outter shell only
I know that I would have lost a significant person in my life,

Who, allow me to say it, I love the most.

Life´s Advice - Aiming for Causes

Good morning, my readers.

For tueday's topic, I chose one particular subject
On which I have been dedicating myself to.
We all can make a diference.

My advices to feel weightless and help others as well (and yourself)

1. We cannot feel sorry for ourselves nor feel "pity". 
It is the worst thing we can do for ourselves. 

2. If we give out optimistic, positive atitudes
And show LOVE in our actions, we can and will make a diference !
(The mirror effect I spoke about, some posts before).


3. Before you dedicate yourself  to embrace causes
You need to cleanse yourself as a first step...
I shall leave a link, here is one as an example :

Aura Cleansing

Because we need to let go of everything that has caused us 
And still causes us harm.
People. Situations. Circunstances. Regrets. Ressentment.
Bitterness.

I may even reach this subject a lot, often. 
But I insist on such as it is a very important point and lesson to learn.
The sooner you do so, the sooner you will open your heart 
To new experiences and to your personal and inner renovation.

4. Another mistake people make is to put the blame exclusively on others.
That is wrong. You will be feeding a monster within you, 
Eventhough it may look easier, at first sight...

We must learn to forgive and let go... The fault may be ours as well, due to keeping our same old habits.
How will we expect to change, if everything else remains the same?

5. After cleansing,
Which Cause will you support?

Environment and Animals :

You can start by becoming an e-activist at websites like Greenpeace, PETA or HSI.
I searched for the website in English, yet, 
I believe PETA or Greenpeace have representatives in some countries.

Note - *If you have possessions, you can donate.
However, make sure to read and search about the companies before doing so*.

You can become a volunteer at your local animal shelter or support local causes.

People such as Elderly, Children ... 

You can click every day, for free.
The Hunger Site

If you have a social network site, you can "Like" We Day.
They give out one dollar per like.


You can: 

- Become a volunteer at a Hospital, Daycare or Firefighters.

- Help your local library ;

- Write articles for the school Newspaper 

- Join your school theatre group.

- Start a petition or sign a petition ;

- Organize debates or events ;

- If you have a social network site, you can "Like" We Day.
They give out one dollar per like.



Depending of your personality, 

You have plenty of causes you can join !

Will you make part ?

Relationships - Perfect?

Good evening my readers

I have been thinking this, looking at today.
So, the subject that I chose today is Relationships.
(Excuse me for the delay on posting)

Are they perfect or they can be perfect?

I leave this question for you to think and consider upon.

My opinion regarding this, is to first of all think of your relationships.
Whether of the past or current one.
Past relationships are just that : PAST.
But are a valuable lesson if you think about what went wrong, what went right
And what must or can be improved.

Now, my answer...

• There is no such thing as perfect relationship.

To be in a relationship, is to be and face commitment.
Otherwise, what is the point?

Note.: I have nothing against other types of relationships such as short term relationships
Which are based "on knowing eachother".
To know each other, you can start off by being friends,
Then build a strong and trusting friendship as a solid foundation.

A relationship, without it, may (at times) collapse.

• More than a boyfriend or girlfriend you need a person who is there for you. 

And on this point I mean both persons, as a couple.
Otherwise there is the risk of the relationship to become "one-sided".

• Comunication

About everything and nothing!
It is beautiful and healthy to talk about the daily basis,
culture, hobbies, movies, common interests.
People eventually grow old and
what is left is conversation and being there for eachother.

Comunication is also VERY important to solve things while going through bad moments.

• Trust

It is another important part and piece.

• It is not about remaining the same.

People change and their goals change as well.

Being taken or commited is also about accepting one another

The way he/she is. And adapting eachother to one another...

It is about both persons giving without always expecting in return.

It is about doing an effort, it is about surprising your better half.

• Bottom Line: 

There are no perfect relationships nor perfect persons, 

There are persons making an effort

And fighting for everything to work out.

Peace be with you!

Life´s Advice - Psychotherapy and Tools

Good evening, everyone !

I have been asked, even more than just once if I have knowledge
And/or if I am connected to Psychology.
I shall leave that for other people to evaluate.

But then, when time passes
The answer will be left at open.

I have learnt much while studying during my course
And mostly, thanks to life itself.
It can bring many,many lessons along,
IF we are willing to learn.

It is a long process
And I am going to be completly honest :
There will be times of joy, there will be sadness and frustration.
There will be tears, there will be times of exhaustion
And when you stop and look behind, you will realize
" I have achieved so much, I have changed ! "

It will be worth it and it is.
Psycotherapy was a really valuable tool and taught me many things
And still does. It is helpful because:

A) It boosts your self confidence.

B) Helps you with expressing your feelings towards someone else.
Note : Again, it will take take time .
Maybe you will feel and create empathy towards your psychologist at the first time,
Or later or even with someone else, later on.

C) Psychotherapy is where you can talk about what is troubling you
There, you can about just nothing, anything, everything.
However, if you feel like holding back, maybe you haven't created that bond
That empathy with the professional yet. It will require time, trust me.
Amongst four professionals I created a strong therapeutical bond with the first and last one.
When that happens you will feel like nothing is too difficult to tell.

It might be difficult to start if you think that that person is a stranger.
Think of it like this " I AM HERE ONLY TO GET BETTER "
And this one person IS going to HELP 
A special and unique human being : ME (YOU) "

D) Helps your thoughts...
Often, whilst a person is depressed or stressed
He or she may have difficulty in organizing his/her thoughts
And its organization.

Therapy CAN and will help you stablish goals
Then priorities, then time to do so.
As in a "TO DO LIST"

QUESTIONS : 
What do I / Aim for and wish ? 
When can I do ? When will it be?

Note : 
What - Objectives.
When - Stablishes time to accomplish and/or complete those tasks.
(When...) Will it be? - an expression which is clearly set for the future.

Another step :
First we can start off by writing down our personal goals
The ones that come to head and mind at the very start
Then others, and so on...
Afterwards you shall divide everything in two lists

Personal Goals and Professional Goals
And, yet opcional, you can also create another blank paper sheet
By the name of Dreams and Aspirations.
We all deserve so and should dream.
May those be a flame and a MOTIVATION
for you to always, always keep you head high
and have a constant motivation.

My motivation is connected to what I have achieved
Along with waking up alive every morning
Having health and keeping in mind that my work
And/or course will take me somewhere, will be useful
Or even, that I shall gain anything with them.

So, after reading this , what is your motivation?

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God bless*

Self Injury - Being Clean

Good afternoon.
How are you??
I have been clean for quite some time.
Months, I have been cut free.
With success, I am free

Over 8 months, maybe, just to have a glimpse of time.
I hope you are okay and that if it is your case,
That you find your pathway to recovery.

I shall be here and help you if you need so , too.

My testimony is out there... 
Read it if it can be of help.
Self Injury can be a result of Depression condition,
Or even,
A condition itself which camuflages other problems happening
with the person who is suffering :

For example,

As a result of family issues, bullying, relationship problems, eating disorders.
It can be linked or hand to hand to any of those,
As a way of copying or even, punishing oneself.
It is estimated that many have hurt themselves

Thousands, maybe millions of people, in certain points
Of their lifes.

Where to find help? 
Info and Support 
Sugestions are welcome,

You can contact us anytime as well at Contact us. 

What is SI / SH ? Self Injury and Self Harm
The document on awareness : SI Awareness

Advice : Butterfly Project , SI 
Let that butterfly live :)

Social - Being Underestimated

Good evening fellow readers,
The subject for today is about
Being Underestimated .

It is a very important subject on which I felt the urge of writing about...
As some persons might have been or are experiencing this in their lives (at certain point).

Let NO ONE ever take your dignity away
Nor put in cause your value.

And even if you get/are stuck by any comment
I know and I am sure that none of those is made out of truth
But instead, made out of either envy , jealousy or from persons
That want no good for you. Hear nothing of that.


"No weapon formed against me shall prosper" 
(DMX - Lord, Give me a Sign)

-- I heard this lyrics of a song, yet it is a useful quote
In this situation. Do not allow anyone to bring you down.

Instead, keep focusing of your goals :
Surprise them, amaze them with your abilities...

I remember when I was bullied in highschool...
I wasn't as good as my classmates in Physical Education Classes.
I started to write as a coping method.

Then I learned my strongest subjects : Language (PT) and English.
While I was made fun about in one part,
I shall say that I surprised my classmates
When I was able to get good grades on the two subjects I was keen on.

If I made it through School, you can make it through as well.
It can be applied to other areas of life, for example any type of relationship.

Bottom line is :
Do not allow anyone to bring you down
In any circunstances...

And even if you feel down or weaker,
Please pick up your weapons and remain fighting.
Reveal the warrior in you

Because you are stronger than you can imagine.
You are a wonderful human being...

Anything that happens
Hold onto us.
Bring me your troubles and insecurities
and I shall do the best to help.

We shall never underestimate
Because we know your value! 
Take care.

Life´s Advice - Gratitude

A blessed weekend to everyone out there!
Being Grateful.
I chose this topic
As it is a subject very related to me

And , personally,
I believe we may go through this
At a certain in our lives,

We either learn or not to be grateful 
We either choose or not to practice 
Gratitude In OUR lives. 

Practicing gratitude in... 
Each and everytime you breathe a gasp of air... 

Each time you wake up in the morning, 

Each time you are alive, 

Each time you have health (even if it is a little bit) 

To carry through the day, 

Each time you have food on the table, 

Each time you have a place to sleep, 

Each time you have someone to love, 

(Whether is a family member, your better half or good friends) 

So... Practice Gratitude, as many times as you can,
Every day and even when you feel upset or sad.
It is not about what you wish to have or about what you want to have and don't have

It is about what you already have 
Even the slightest, most simple things 
AND TO BE THANKFUL FOR THEM. 
Blessed be*

Social - Fake Friendships

These situations have been bothering me alot
Or they used to disturb me during the past years.

I am no longer helping and listening to others tooo much
Because by doing so, I would tend to
Forget about myself and my OWN needs.

So if this is OR a similar situation is troubling you

CONSIDER :
If that Friendship is worth keeping...
----- OR -----
If you have to let go.

Other thing important to remember is that...
Even if you cannot...
Save a romantic relationship keep the friendship
Save the friendship carry no guilty no faults
You did everything you could have done
To save it.

You are not being selfish by doing so
And also leave all that either closed
and/or cleared up from any missunderstandings
That way you won't stress as much
and you will have more peace of mind.

Finally, what I mean is
You can indeed help others
But definately keep an eye on yourself
Focus on yourself
And let no one affect you.

Have a great week.

Social - Fake Friendships

These situations have been bothering me alot
Or they used to disturb me during the past years.

I am no longer helping and listening to others tooo much
Because by doing so, I would tend to
Forget about myself and my OWN needs.

So if this is OR a similar situation is troubling you

CONSIDER :
If that Friendship is worth keeping...
----- OR -----
If you have to let go.

Other thing important to remember is that...
Even if you cannot...
Save a romantic relationship keep the friendship
Save the friendship carry no guilty no faults
You did everything you could have done
To save it.

You are not being selfish by doing so
And also leave all that either closed
and/or cleared up from any missunderstandings
That way you won't stress as much
and you will have more peace of mind.

Finally, what I mean is
You can indeed help others
But definately keep an eye on yourself
Focus on yourself
And let no one affect you.

Have a great week.

Social - Chatting

The sky gets darker here where I live at
So, goodnight everyone!
One recent subject I am going to talk about are chatrooms.
There are a whole lot of them nowadays plus social networks,
Some on which I shall not go in detail about.

That leads to other subjects...
Safety
a) I advice you to use a nickname, something far from your real name

b) Avoid putting your age or year of birth in there or in your email adress.

c) Avoid spreading/exposing too much information online
Such as pictures (mainly avoid ones that expose you too much or indicate porn/nudity)
Important files or documents.

d) Get to know the person well.

e) DON'T give out your adress.

f) When about to personally meet someone choose a public and crowded place
Think VERY carefully before deciding to meet someone you spoke with online.
Going from online to "real life" takes some steps...

h) ...and be aware that he/she might be a bit diferent than what you imagined
Or maybe not; I do not mean to be unpleasant, just giving a bit of a alert
Because I care for you all.

i) If you are a parent, be careful if a underage person is online
Always take the basic safety measures.
Specially nowadays, you will never know who can be at the other side
Of the screen or on the other side of the keyboard
As some can and do fake their true identity for other ends.

j) Avoid sending pictures and other stuff.


My point of view...
I was around a year or two in chatrooms,
And I am ready enough to speak a bit about this experience.

I found people who wanted only to talk about sex or see me in a webcam
On which I blocked and ignored right away.
And others who were friendly.
So choose your contacts well and wisely.

I mainly advice not to search for a relationship in chatrooms
Let things happen naturally, do not force them to happen
Nor feel desperate about it. It will happen in it's time.

And yes, I only searched for friends in the chatroom where I was.
I found a bit of rude people and friendly too.
I don't use chatrooms anymore as I was just curious before.
I let it go eventually and started going out more
And going social at school or events about poetry and prose releases.


In the meantime,
I will be wishing the best for you.

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Relationships - Balance and Subjects

One more post, as requested regarding Relationships;
Forgive me in advance for the lack of posts here in Life Blog
Yet, sometimes I have too much work at hands
or reaching Internet is a little troubled.

Now getting to some subjects that ARE important in any relationship,
Whether it is Friendship, Love or Family relatives.

1) Listen
I know sometimes (at least it happens to me now and then)
You want to talk a lot

Especially if, like me you have the tiny problem of forgetting what you were talking about.

How do I solve this? I try my best to remember
In which part or point I was in the conversation

I think my friends got used to it, it isn't funny to forget stuff...
But oh well, I try to see something fun out of it,
Otherwise it would be a total bummer
To whoever was with me at the moment!
They help me remember…

As first, I do try to remember the subject and talk
Then I let the other person or persons in the group to talk
So I can see what exactly they think about x or y subject.
That is where it gets interesting.
Then the conversation can go on
Or we can skip/change to another subject
...If we all want or agree.

Believe me, there are two things about changing subjects…

Bright side:
There will be constantly a lot to talk about
And it might not get boring.

Negative part of it:
Changing conversation subjects too fast
Might get annoying often.

2) Talk
I am pretty sure that if people invited you or if you invited them
You want to hear from them and/or
They likely want to hear from you
So don't be afraid to talk
YET avoid making too much questions at the same time.

3) What to talk / write about?
It mostly depends of the person and of the occasion itself.

Family:
Daily basis subjects, school/work, culture/music and movies.
Best times to talk are when you go to any event,
Family gathering, museum, ect....
Or when you gather while on meals

(Mostly lunch and dinner because much people might be in a hurry while eating breakfast, specially if the person or persons go to work early morning)

Basics: when you start contact with someone whether
It is by writing or personally
Make basic questions to him/her…
I will try to give some tips, here!

Music
Favorite band, singer, if he/she has ever went to a concert
Or saw a certain band live, movie soundtracks, favorite song,
most annoying or disliked songs,
show random music or bands and ask his/her opinion,
show music clips or videos,
new artists and bands (no matter which country they are from),
if you know how to play an instrument
show it and teach him/her with time and if he/she wants,…

Culture
If you are both from different cultures
or countries you can talk about your differences
in a healthy way without breaking into an argue.
It is all about the way you talk towards your friend
or even significant other.

Respect IS NEEDED above all in a conversation.

As for Culture… you can speak about Politics…
Yet if you think this is rather boring…
You can talk about the “good” and “less good”
In your country/city, the weather in a random way,
Plans for Summer or for School
(if you are reading me when school is about to start).

You can talk about books,
If he/she enjoys reading and what type of books/author,
Discuss a bit by trading different points of view.

You can learn his/her language and he/she can learn yours.
Then you can test each others knowledge
by doing some questions and tiny tests.

Other things, such as hobbies,
What the person enjoys doing during the free time.
Share daily basis subjects,
Like your day at school or at work.
Ask him/her the same.
Show that you truly care. <3 Cosmetics, beauty habits, ECT
Some enjoy talking about cosmetics,
beauty and fashion…depends of the person.

Zen

Sports
His/her favorite sport or favorite sports team/player;
Expectations for the championship….
If he/she practices or
would ever wish to practice any type of sport
if he/she had the chance.

Pets
What pets does he/she have now
and which ones would he/she like to have in the future?
What is your favorite animal/pet?
Have you ever been in a Zoo?
If so, what do you think of them?

NOTE : If I remember more subjects,
Either I or Wordskeeper shall add them
Here in this post.

Have a wonderful week...

Relationships - Violence

Do you feel better now
When she falls to the ground?

Unfortunately violence
During marriage or violence while dating is sometimes real.
Or domestic violence.

I believe it is a subject that has to be exposed
And eventually be solved/ sorted out.

As some of my posts show, I am against violence...
Against other persons no matter their age or animals.
It is wrong.

And violence against your significant other
Is even worse in my eyes. Your wife or your husband...
She or he is supposed to be the one
Who you shared your matrimonial vows with
On which includes...
Standing with that person through,

"...Health or disease
...Happiness or Sadness
...Richness or Poor
Until Death do us part."

Not that unrelated the vows because
either one of those while the couple is in "crisis"
Can generate argues and other times,
Violence when one or both
are highly exposed to a stressful enviromment.

...Continuing, violence isn't necessary at all
to expose your points of view
Forcing your significant to agree
on whatever you say isn't a good start
To any relationship.

We all have our individual opinions and capacity to think.
And believe me, all it takes is to TALK.
Talk, never shouting. And respecting.

Types of violence...
~ Physical
~ Psychological

Explanation :
~ Physical violence includes -
Pushing, grabbing, punching/kicking,
Pulling hair, throwing objects...
Anything that intencionaly hurts the other physically.

~ Psychological violence includes -
Intimidating (through messages or personally),
threatning, manipulating...playing with one's mind,
forcing to do what the other doesn't agree,
restrict money, controlling (through messages, personally
or through simple things as accounts, conversations, ect.)
Insulting or cursing towards the significant other with the intention
of making the person feel or to bring the person down.

--

Factors that can worsen Violence
~ Alcohol
~ Substance abuse

Explanation :
One of those or the two completely change the person
I don't say this as an excuse, though.


Factors that are needed to lessen or erase violence
~ Comunication
~ RESPECT
~ Trust
~ Time

Explanation :
I shall advice if you or your significant other
If one of you is about to "snap"
take like 15 up to 20 minutes
Or a bit more to one of you. Go out or go to separate rooms
So you can think a bit and not act in the "heat of the moment"
Or, under stress and anger...

If going to separate rooms didn't solved your problem...
a ) Go out a bit, walk... then come back.

b ) Hop in the shower (cold) or in the bathtub (warm)
In order to relax or think a bit on your own.

c ) Go talk with your partner
and try to say you two can talk
the next day about what is disturbing him/her.

Other little something :
1) Violence isn't healthy in a relationship.

2) If your a victim of such, do not lock yourself up nor suffer in silence

3) You will never know that while you hit on your soulmate, your other half
Someone maybe (a little maybe) would like to held him/her and treat him/her respectfully.

4) There are around 4 million people in the world (or more now?)
YET... your wife, your husband chose YOU.
Amongst so many people.
You are taken or if you're married, think of the good moments too
It is never too late to repair the damages.
What is needed is pacience, love, comunication
And the promise (to keep) that the violent events will not happen again.

A song sugestion a bit about the subject...

( Música - Red Jumpsuit Apparatus - Face down )

Take care and peace be with you!

Other - Message of Hope

My Comment....

Sy0592 :
This song..says so much
My story is that I was born at 5 months instead of 9
And due to all that my way of walking..
my feet aren't exactly straight ..
So i've been bullied over 8 yrs due to that mostly
Now finished school..
Got over cutting..but self esteem is a big mess.
Had a big deception..
I don't feel after a year that I got over that
I have depression too...
I have thoughts and a broken hope.
People tell me to forget, it's not that easy..
Any advice?
*Not here to hate but to help...

Replies :

1. @Sy0592 i know things get messy especially in HS
and i had 3 years of low self esteem bc of highschool.
but look at who you are in Christ.
HE loved ALL US SO MUCH HE DIED FOR US.
AND STILL LOVES US.
HE IS THERE TO LISTEN TO US.
prayer is key to beating this.
pray to God and be immersed
for the remission of your sins
and recieve the holy spirit
and allow God to work in you !
God bless

2. @Sy0592 God Bless you Sy0592.
He(God) has plans for you.
And all of those are for you.
You just have to wait and look deeper.
Do not be depressed, just look around you.
Look how beautiful you are,
and how beautiful this world is.

3. @Sy0592 it may not be easy to forget
the bad in your life.
but with God's help
you can get over what has happened.
i've had a problem with lying
to my dad and almost lost relationship
with him but he forgave me.
but after that i was afraid of going to Hell
because i lied and wasn't sure if God
was going to forgive me.
but with a little prayer and faith
i knew that God would fogive me.

4. @Sy0592
You are one of the Walking Wounded
(search Walking Wounded - by Don Francisco,
Jesus wants to save you.
If you search real love, seek it by Jesus Christ!

5. @Sy0592 see also video:
Walking Wounden by Don Francisco

Or:

Beauty from pain - superchick
(or other songs by Superchick)

Esterlyn - Kill Your Own Despair

Testimony (by Ravi Zacharias or Paul Washer)

search for testimonies of people being saved.

6. @Sy0592 Give up trying to do anything by yourself.
Just come to a lonely place and cry for God's help.
Bas things happen so that we can come closer to God,
I've learned that from the bible
and God's making this true in my life too.
He says "You'll have afflictions in this world,
but cheer up, I won the world!"
and also "For I know the plans I have to you,
plans of peace, not to hurt you,
to give you the future you hope for."
Seek God, you'll find him
and He'll make things right, in the mean time

7. @Sy0592 here's a verse that might help. Isaiah 45:1-3

8. @Sy0592 im sorry for what u've been going thru.
do u go to church?
if u dont, i strongly suggest that u do.
that'll heal u.
read the Bible as u would read any other book.
PRAY! ask God to show Himself to you!!!
He will...trust me :)
i recently lost sight of God in my life
but now i have Him back in my thoughts
and i couldnt be happier(:
u r in my prayers
and im so sorry for wat u went thru :(
also check out the video "beautiful history" by plumb
bcuz its truly a beautiful song that will help u.

Don't be Alone!

For so long my life was full of shadows.

I was down, alone in the dark, hope was running out...
The vision of a life without love, a life without meaning
was draining a lot of the hope I still had.

But then, on a sunny morning I had someone adding me
on a social website.
How? Well... life can be funny! It was a friend of my brother,
that then added my mother and finnally added me.
I met Life that day.

I met Life and then, slowly, the sun started shinning in the
deep hole I was living. She helped me! A lot!

Having a friend that you can count with can change everything!
Don't keep all the pain to yourself! Talk about it with someone
you trust. Free yourself from all the pain inside by talking
about it!

It is hard! It won't be easy... but if that person is really your friend,
that person will understand and make you feel better.
For years I kept it to myself and wore a mask showing everyone I was ok. I was not ok.
I met Life! I shared my story. She helped a lot

Thanks Life for bringing life to my life!

Don't be Alone!

For so long my life was full of shadows.

I was down, alone in the dark, hope was running out...
The vision of a life without love, a life without meaning
was draining a lot of the hope I still had.

But then, on a sunny morning I had someone adding me
on a social website.
How? Well... life can be funny! It was a friend of my brother,
that then added my mother and finnally added me.
I met Life that day.

I met Life and then, slowly, the sun started shinning in the
deep hole I was living. She helped me! A lot!

Having a friend that you can count with can change everything!
Don't keep all the pain to yourself! Talk about it with someone
you trust. Free yourself from all the pain inside by talking
about it!

It is hard! It won't be easy... but if that person is really your friend,
that person will understand and make you feel better.
For years I kept it to myself and wore a mask showing everyone I was ok. I was not ok.
I met Life! I shared my story. She helped a lot

Thanks Life for bringing life to my life!

Relationships - Moving On

There comes a time when loving isn't enough alone
Argues occur...diferences become overwhelming
Too much to handle...and it comes to an End.

That end is really hard to handle
At least for me. I can't lie,
I got involved in the promises
I thought he was the one....
I got attached and fell in love with that boy.
For two years...

No matter if the words were truth or lies
No matter if the vows and promises
Weren't meant to last forever.
Mine were... Grieve struck me.

I realize that crying won't make him come back
Or turn back on his decision.
I learned that in Life, nothing is certain
I am hurt, I recognize and shown my pain in so many ways
In both positive and negative ways...
I can't say I'm fully recovered

As I must face it...he has a place in my heart
Regardless of what happened between us
Regardless of the distance in between
Regardless of the countless argues.

But I just can't...
I must let go
Because holding tight to your memory
Hearing songs and seing your pictures
Will only make my feelings of sadness and misery worse.
Would be triggers... AND I can't...

I cannot bow and let myself get this affected
I cannot allow to get hurt this way and deeply
I must shield myself...and start moving on

And songs like this...
Help me along the way.
Therefore I'm leaving these videos
For you to take a listen.
I hope it can be as helpful as it was for me.

God bless...and take care...

A Closer look at ED's - ANA and MIA

I reflected a bit about this subject
And I thought carefully before posting anything
Again, all the content belongs to their rightful owners

Videos :

*Trigger warning*
Due to the images you are likely about to see.
Why did I posted here?
As I stated above and much across the blog
Awareness purposes ONLY.

+ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NOyqpKXJBXw


+ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GWPJlVPqAFc
(One of the hardest clips I saw)


++ http://www.youtube.com/user/annehn#p/u/3/8NNy_1tTCOY
(PART 1)

++ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uVcShgy-9OI
(PART 2)


+ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVT_XEc3_y4

+ http://www.youtube.com/user/WhyNotStopSuffering
(A Channel which purpose is RECOVERY)

+ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAaF2bfXsxs
(I saw this video today...has some lessons in it)

More...
++ http://goodbyed.tumblr.com/
(I checked out this blog a bit
and I found it interesting)

NOTE! : There is nothing beautiful nor glamorous in this
It can all start with a diet or with some pills
And it can all slip away and get out of hand.
I am sure that many girls are struggling with this
Others are recovering.

OR even considering.
That is why the sharing on the videos too...
I shall write more about this, certainly.